Trusting God with your Marriage
To make a marriage successful, it takes determination, love, trust, and faith from both the husband and the wife.
We must speak life into our marriages if we expect good to come from them. And when conflicts arise, husbands and wives must work together, not against each other.
And it’s important to remember God’s Word and what He requires of both the husband and the wife in marriage.
“Marriage is a gift from God to us. The quality of our marriage is a gift from us to Him.” – L. Whitney Clayton
How do we know God designed marriage?
In Genesis 2:18-24, we read: “The Lord God said, ‘It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.’
Now the Lord God had formed out of the ground all the wild animals and all the birds in the sky. He brought them to the man to see what he would name them; and whatever the man called each living creature, that was its name. So the man gave names to all the livestock, the birds in the sky and all the wild animals.
But for Adam no suitable helper was found. So the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs and then closed up the place with flesh. Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man.
The man said, ‘This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘woman’, for she was taken out of man.’ That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.”
And it’s been shown time and time again that as a husband and wife grow closer to God, they will also grow closer to each other.
Why do bad things happen in marriage?
Part of the problem now-a-days is people think once they are married, they will live happily ever after and they expect their spouse to be the one to make them happy. Unfortunately, that just isn’t true.
While there are so many happy moments in a marriage, it isn’t smooth sailing all the time. God gave us the gift of free-will, which can create conflicts and sin to enter our marriages.
Free-will gives us the ability to form our own opinions and make our own choices. While of course this is important, and indeed a gift, it creates conflict when someone else (including your husband or wife) disagrees with your choices and opinions.
And it has turned into a “me” centered world. So if someone isn’t making us happy, it’s easy and mainstream to remove them from our lives.
But marriage needs to be held to a higher standard.
After all, you made a promise to God to cherish, love, care for, and respect your spouse until death do you part. (There are of course exceptions, if your spouse is continually committing adultery or is abusive to you and/or your children for example-please seek help if this is a reality for you.)
Remember, marriage must be a give-give relationship and one where each person is doing their best to give 100%. As you’ve probably read, “Marriage is not 50/50. Divorce is 50/50. Marriage has to be 100/100. It isn’t dividing everything in half, but giving everything you’ve got!” – Dave Willis
Can you trust God with your marriage?
Short answer: YES!
Long answer: God created marriage; it’s one of His gifts to us. And He wants you to keep the promises you made both to Him and to your spouse on your wedding day.
Many times, divorce is a result of a hardened heart. And a hardened heart is an unforgiving heart.
And an unforgiving heart is a sinful heart as we can see from Matthew 6:14-15, “For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.”
And it’s helpful to remember that God didn’t design divorce. (Malachi 2:16)
God’s love of marriage is evident in Mark 10:6-9 when Jesus said, “But at the beginning of creation God made them male and female. For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh. So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”
And be sure to give love and respect freely, even if you don’t feel your spouse deserves it. Many times, it’s the person who we feel isn’t deserving of our love and respect, who actually needs it the most.
If your marriage is struggling right now, in addition to giving love and respect, praying for your spouse is one of the best things you can do. Praying is important because you can’t change your spouse. Only God can. “Your job is to accept your spouse as he or she is and pray for God to work in his or her life. Only God can bring about changes that will last. Go to Him often confessing your need to be changed and inviting Him to continue His good work in your life.” 
Many marriages would greatly improve if wives would give more respect to their husbands, and husbands would give more love to their wives, just as God designed.
22 Bible Verses about Marriage and Trusting God
“Those who know your name will trust in you, for you, Lord, have never forsaken those who seek you.” ~Psalm 9:10
“Cast your cares on the LORD and he will sustain you; he will never let the righteous be shaken.” ~Psalm 55:22
“Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the LORD your God will be with you wherever you go.” ~Joshua 1:9
“But I trust in your unfailing love; my heart rejoices in your salvation.” ~Psalm 13:5
“When I am afraid, I put my trust in you.” ~Psalm 56:3
“Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.” ~Proverbs 3:5-6
“Let the morning bring me word of your unfailing love, for I have put my trust in you. Show me the way I should go, for to you I entrust my life.” ~Psalm 143:8
“Be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you.” ~Ephesians 4:32
“In the same way, you husbands must give honor to your wives. Treat your wife with understanding as you live together. She may be weaker than you are, but she is your equal partner in God’s gift of new life. Treat her as you should so your prayers will not be hindered.” ~1 Peter 3:7
“May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.” ~Romans 15:13
“Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.” ~Ecclesiastes 4:12
“Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love.” ~Ephesians 4:2
“Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church…” ~Ephesians 5:25-33
“Wives, in the same way submit yourselves to your own husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives.” ~1 Peter 3:1
“Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins.” ~1 Peter 4:8
“And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.” ~1 Corinthians 13:13
“No one has ever seen God; but if we love one another, God lives in us and his love is made complete in us.” ~1 John 4:12
“And so we know and rely on the love God has for us. God is love. Whoever lives in love lives in God, and God in them.” ~1 John 4:16
“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.” ~1 Corinthians 13:4-8
“Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.” ~Ephesians 5:22-24
“However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.” ~Ephesians 5:33
“A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies. Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value. She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life.” ~Proverbs 31:10-12
Have faith in God; He loves you and your spouse more than imaginable! I know trusting God with your marriage isn’t always easy, but it is always necessary.
So, do you think the Lord can be trusted with your marriage?
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