5 Things To Do When You Feel like Something is Missing in Your Life
Feeling like things in your life aren’t how they should be can be very stressful.
Maybe it feels like something is missing in your marriage, or in your career, or in your parenting.
Whatever it is, there are ways to ease that feeling.
Remember God has a plan for you.
“‘For I know the plans I have for you,’ declared the Lord, ‘plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future’” -Jeremiah 29:11
“For we are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do” -Ephesians 2:10
And you can trust that God knows what He’s doing and that He loves you.
“Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all ways acknowledge Him, and He will make your paths straight” -Proverbs 3:5-6
“No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us. For I am sure that neither death nor life, nor angels nor rulers, nor things present nor things to come, nor powers, nor height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord” -Romans 8:37-39
When something is missing, remind yourself there’s no such thing as a perfect _____.
You fill in the blank; life, marriage, day, friendship, whatever you’re feeling.
Life is hard and downright unfair sometimes. And no one is perfect – which means things that involve another person, won’t be perfect.
Your mom or dad probably told you when you were growing up that life isn’t always fair (usually when you wanted something but couldn’t have it). And it’s true, unfortunately.
My mom was the kindest, most selfless person I knew – but she was diagnosed with Leukemia at the age of 53. She died 3 years later because the chemotherapy wrecked her immune system; she got strep throat over Thanksgiving and passed away 3 days later because her body couldn’t fight it. There’s nothing fair about that.
Three months later, my dad was diagnosed with Multiple Myeloma and only lived for 2 months. He passed away at the age of 59. There’s nothing fair about both my parents passing away within 5 months of each other and leaving behind (at that time) a 16-year-old son, a 23-year-old daughter, and a 3-year-old grandson.
I learned that life isn’t always fair; it’s never going to be perfect. The only option you have is to change your thinking and try to find something positive out of each day and experience.
Life can’t be perfect because we all sin. We need grace, support, and love to get through each day; and no one can give that to you more than God.
Determine what would make your circumstances better or fill the feeling that something is missing so you feel more satisfied.
Do this while keeping in mind that nothing in life is perfect.
Think about what would need to happen so you feel like your life is together.
At the same time, be sure you’re not holding your expectations for life too high. Doing this may be the reason you feel dissatisfied and like something is missing.
After thinking about what things would make your circumstances better, list what you (and only you) can do to achieve those things.
It’s important you focus on the actions and thoughts YOU can do. Listing what other people should be doing to help you be satisfied with your life will not be of much help to you.
For one thing, no one is responsible for your happiness, except you. For another, you really can’t control what other people do or how they respond.
Some things that you could do to find out what is missing and change it is: go to places where you meet new people (maybe you need to be around people who are more positive and encouraging) and explore (churches, support groups, different homes-maybe you need to live somewhere else so you can stop feeling like something is missing-career options, colleges, etc.).
Maybe you need to let a few things go in order to fix what is missing.
What can you do to stop feeling like something is missing – first you have to find out what it is, and then list how you can change that feeling.
Save (and print!) this printable to help you start crossing off those items from Step #4 and start to feel your life is more complete!
To print this, right click on the image and select ‘Save image as’ or ‘Save to computer’. This way, you can print it at your convenience.
“Do not take life too seriously. You won’t get out of it alive.”
– Elbert Hubbard
Also, please don’t feel like you’re alone; everyone at some point (or maybe at many points) in their life, feels like something is missing.
As time passes, circumstances and experiences change. You may find that time is what you need in order for things to change for the better.