When You’re Mad at God…
And even the strongest believers – people who love God with all their heart, mind, soul, and strength – can feel mad at God sometimes.
Anger is a natural human emotion, and because we don’t know God’s design or reason for things, it can be easy to feel mad at God when something bad happens.
However, we can rest in the knowledge that God understands all things, He is a wise and powerful God. But He is also a loving and forgiving God.
And we can see God’s wisdom and knowledge throughout the Bible.
The psalmist wrote:
O LORD, how manifold are your works! In wisdom you have made them all; the earth is full of your creatures. ~Psalm 104:24
And in Proverbs it says:
The LORD by wisdom founded the earth; by understanding he established the heavens. ~Proverbs 3:19
In Isaiah we read:
Do you not know? Have you not heard? The Lord is the everlasting God, the Creator of the ends of the earth. He will not grow tired or weary, and his understanding no one can fathom. ~Isaiah 40:28
And Jeremiah told us:
It is he who made the earth by his power, who established the world by his wisdom, and by his understanding stretched out the heavens. ~Jeremiah 10:12
The prophet Daniel declared:
Blessed be the name of God from age to age, for wisdom and power are his. He changes times and seasons, deposes kings and sets up kings; he gives wisdom to the wise and knowledge to those who have understanding. He reveals deep and hidden things; he knows what is in the darkness, and light dwells with him. ~Daniel 2:20-22
The Apostle Paul said:
Oh, the depth of the riches of the wisdom and Or riches and the wisdom and the knowledge of God! How unsearchable his judgments, and his paths beyond tracing out! ~Romans 11:33
And Paul wrote:
But to those whom God has called, both Jews and Greeks, Christ the power of God and the wisdom of God. For the foolishness of God is wiser than man’s wisdom, and the weakness of God is stronger than man’s strength. ~1 Corinthians 1:24-25
Although God is wiser than any of us, it can be easy to blame Him when something happens that is out of our control.
I’ve been a firm believer in God for many years and was baptized in February 2014. But at the end of that year, my struggle began and since then, I have spent a large majority of the time being mad at God.
Those of you who know me and my story probably already know why I feel anger toward God at times. For those of you who don’t, let me take a quick moment to explain…
I lost my mom, dad, and cousin all within 5 ½ months. I watched my mom pass away after spending 2 years trying to recover from the chemo treatments she had gone through a couple of years prior. I watched my dad waste away from cancer and a broken heart; he passed 5 ½ months after my mom. And my cousin also died of cancer 2 days before my dad.
Before and during each of these moments, I begged God to save them, to work a miracle. But my pleas went unanswered. And what made it even more difficult was they all passed away at young ages. My mom had just turned 56, my dad was 59, and my cousin was 41. I knew they would miss out on so much… And since all of this I’ve been battling depression, PTSD and anger toward God.
Even though my faith is becoming stronger again, in my weakest moments, I can still feel so mad at God for what happened.
And I’m sure what you’re angry about is justified in your mind as well.
I’d imagine we have all made requests and prayers that felt unanswered. But maybe God did answer – it just wasn’t the answer we wanted.
We will never understand why some things happen. God is the only one with enough wisdom and understanding to see the whole picture.
Which is why it’s so important to trust Him. He’s the only one who truly understands why things happen the way they do and still loves us through everything, even when we blame Him.
He knows our hearts and wants to comfort us.
What you can do when you’re mad at God:
1) Give yourself time
No one, including God, expects you to never let things in life affect you. You need time to process, accept, and forgive.
You need time to heal.
And when you put your faith in God, He can help you.
What you are experiencing may be making you lean on God’s love and strength more. Or it may take time for you to regain your faith – everyone is at a different place in their walk with God.
2) Reach out to family and friends
Difficult moments in life happen to everyone. Having good friends and family to lean on is important.
But if you don’t have a strong support system, there are groups you can join online as well as groups that meet for various reasons to help people in the community who are facing hardship (such as grief groups or groups in the church).
3) Seek encouragement at church
Draw strength from the worship and fellowship at church. You can also pray with people there or talk to your pastor.
Church can be a great place to gain strength and build your faith.
4) Read the Bible
Here are some encouraging Bible verses about faith as well as trusting and leaning on God during hardships.
Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight. ~Proverbs 3:5-6
LORD my God, I called to you for help, and you healed me. ~Psalm 30:2
Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the LORD your God will be with you wherever you go. ~Joshua 1:9
But I trust in your unfailing love; my heart rejoices in your salvation. ~Psalm 13:5
When I am afraid, I put my trust in you. ~Psalm 56:3
May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit. ~Romans 15:13
For more encouragement read my article, 20 Encouraging Bible Verses about Strength and Hope.
Tell God how you’re feeling, and ask for His comfort and strength.
There is so much hurt and anger inside of me. I miss feeling happy and I need your love and guidance. I’m opening up my heart to you so I can be healed. And I know you have the power to understand my heart and help me through this. I’m so grateful that even when I don’t understand what’s happening or I’m feeling angry at you Lord, that you still love me and want to comfort me. And now I’m ready for comfort, I’m ready for peace, and I’m ready to open my heart to you so you can take away my pain.
In Jesus’ Name, Amen.
Pray whatever is in your heart.
And don’t be too hard on yourself. There will be times in life when you may not feel like you can’t get through on our own. But with God you’re never alone. He can strengthen you and give you peace, if you let Him.